FEBRUARY 15, 2015 BY KEMI ASHEFON
Basket Mouth & Wife Elsie
Marriage becomes blissful when you decide to behave as best friends. What is expected of a friend?
Understanding
A friend accepts your personality and embraces your flaws. Friendship is enhancing each other’s potential and helping to realise goals.
Dakore: We were friends for a while before we started dating. At that time, I was not looking for a date. I liked him for his confidence and he gave me my space too. He is a little more reserved than I am and he understands me and my job. We try to stay mindful of each other and support each other.
— Dakore Egbuson-Akande, actress, is married to Olumide
A shoulder to cry on
Marriage proffers a shoulder to lean on in time of crisis. Even in the worst tempest, you are meant to find succour in a friend.
Abike: As a federal legislator, there is no closing time. There are a lot of calls, texts messages, e-mails and you are trying to solve one issue or the other and I try to attend to virtually all. My husband feels sorry for me, more often than not. He is always very supportive in any way he can to help ease the workload. Just by having a shoulder to lean on makes things a lot easier.
—Hon. Abike Dabiri-Erewa, politician, is married to Segun
Adjustable lifestyle
Even in the face of absolute discomfort, a friend adjusts to your lifestyle without rancour. This creates peace in any home.
Lanre: We have been married for over 38 years. My wife and I have different lifestyles. She does not like to go out while I am the social bird but we complement each other. The home must be comfortable and you must enjoy each other’s company for a lasting marriage.
—Lanre Ogunlesi, fashion entrepreneur, is married to Modupe
A friend shuns idle talks
The rumour mill will always be agog but your relationship stands the test of time when you ignore idle talks.
Wunmi: Women have to keep it at the back of their minds that idle talks destroy any home. Why is that person telling you something about your spouse? Even if it’s true, apply wisdom and go about it carefully. My maxim is, what I don’t know would not hurt me.
Wunmi Obe, an entertainer is married to Tunde
A friend refines you
Character traits notwithstanding, you are still a reflection of your friend’s habits—good or bad. Good friendship refines and brings out the best in you.
Peace: I was somebody who, when she needed anything, went for it. But since I got married 35 years ago, my husband makes me calm down and that has really helped me. He also taught me to be patient with others.
—Bishop Peace is married to Bishop Mike Okonkwo, the presiding pastor of The Redeemed Evangelical Mission (TREM).
A friend is a blessing
A friend blesses. A friend makes you happy despite all odds.
Sam: God will always give you what is good. My wife is good. She has been an awesome blessing. She is also very intelligent, educated and smart. She has been a huge blessing to me, we have had our challenges because we are human beings and we’re not perfect. The good thing is we are both god-fearing.
—Sam Adeyemi, who pastors Daystar Christian Centre, is married to Nike
A friend corrects in love
No partner is an angel and when there is a wrong, correcting it should be done in love.
Elsie: My husband is my best friend and therefore, loving him comes easily even when he makes mistakes. It’s very easy for us to correct each other. I think our love is just perfect. God has blessed me with the most amazing guy on the planet.
—Elsie is married to Bright Okpocha aka Basketmouth, a comedian
A friend empathises
He puts himself in your shoes and imagines where it pinches. He encourages you
Betty: I am lucky to have a friend in my husband. He understands what journalism entails and celebrates me all the time. There are times I am down being an entrepreneur in Nigeria but he would encourage me. I can always run to him when I have challenges and he always has the right words for me.
—Betty publishes Genevieve magazine and is married to Sonny Irabor
SOURCE:PUNCH.
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