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When we were small, we were taught that if we wanted to be successful, we had to study hard and get good results at school. Getting straight “A”s had to be our goal if we wanted to succeed in life. But in reality, how many straight A students do you know become really successful as they grow up?The good boys and good girls who were very disciplined at school, submitting all their assignments on time and getting good results in exams may just end up doing a job they don’t like despite the fact that they can make money out of it.Why is it like that? Weren’t we taught that to become successful, we’re supposed to study hard and be good at school?
What you need for a good and successful life is not really learned at school.
I’m not discouraging anyone to give up studying; there’re subjects such as languages, simple maths, music and physical education which are useful for us. What I’m trying to say is that the school curriculum is not perfect.There’re a lot of things which are essential to life missing in the curriculum. And there’re many bad habits schools inculcate:
They want us to put up our hands and wait to be chosen. They want us to keep asking other people for permission.They teach us to deliver on, rather than change, expectations.They teach us to redeploy ideas rather than originate them.They teach us to expect that people in authority know – rather than letting us imagine that – in rather inspiring ways – no one is really on top of what’s going on.They teach us to trust that they have our largest, best, life-long interests at heart; without letting on that they are merely interested in our achievements
Basically, to succeed at school, you need to be obedient, and whether you’re good or not very much depends on the teachers’ expectations. And instead of helping students to understand why they should do certain things, teachers (or the school system) simply force students to follow the rules, leaving students no room for originality and critical thinking.But life doesn’t work like this in reality.To succeed in life, you need to think out of the box instead of doing what everyone else’s doing. And there’re many aspects to take care of aside from the school subjects, for example, what to do to be a happy person; how to maintain a healthy relationship; how to work smart; and what to do to lead a meaningful life etc.
Doing bad at school doesn’t make you a failure (and it’s supported by statistics).
While it’s a fact that anyone who has at least a high school diploma has more opportunities because one needs to have some fundamental knowledge and skills; statistics show that people who failed at school didn’t end up failing in life.You may have already known that Steve Jobs, Richard Branson, Oprah Winfrey and Jim Carey etc. didn’t do too well at school or are school dropouts. In fact, there’re a lot more than just the “big names” who are successful in life without completing school.According to Current Biography Yearbook (editions 1959-2005 & 2007), out of all the successful people, at least 768 of them are school dropouts and they’re successful in different fields.
Presidential Medal of Freedom recipients (U.S.’s highest civilian honor): 25
Congressional Gold Medal recipients (U.S.): 12
and the list goes on…
You can check out the complete list of successful people here.Now that you understand the difference between doing good at school and doing good in life, what can you do about this?
Life is a really long lesson, so long that you can’t define a person’s success by just one section of it.
If you’ve already finished school, keep learning because what you learned at school will never be enough to lead a great life.If you’re still studying, whether you’re good or bad at school, don’t take your school results too seriously. Never blindly believe what you’ve been told about getting good grades is the only way to be successful, or that following rules is always for the best of you. But also don’t break the rules unless you’ve learned and understood the rationale behind. In short, just don’t stop thinking.If you’re a parent or a teacher, don’t just focus on the grades the children get. Try to discover their potentials and unleash their talents, that’s how they build confidence and eventually lead a successful life.This article is inspired by The School of Life’s Success at School vs Success in Life.
Are you waking up each day looking for that perfect thing, activity, or job that will make your life work? Or, maybe you are looking for that perfect relationship. Once you “get” this new thing, you are sure that you will be happy forever. In reality, life doesn’t work like that. In fact, we would get bored if it did! There is likely no one thing, experience, or activity that will keep you feeling passionate and engaged all the time. What’s important is staying connected to what you love and continuing to grow in the process.
Most People Already Know Their Passion
So many people walk around in life “looking for” their passion. They look for it as if passion is some mysterious thing that is difficult to find and runs away once you find it. Yet, the problem is rarely lack of passion. Most of us already know what we love to do. We know what excites us, even if we haven’t done it for years. Instead, we focus on what we think we “must” do. For example, maybe you love building model cars or painting pet portraits. Yet, each day you work a completely unrelated job and make no time for the activity you already know you love. The truth is you probably don’t need to find your passion, you just need to start doing what you already know you love.
No Activity Is Exciting All the Time
Even people who are living their dream lifestyle or working their dream job don’t usually love it all the time. Every job or lifestyle has parts of it that we won’t like. Let’s say your dream is to become an actress, and you succeed. You may not enjoy the process of auditioning and facing rejection. You may experience moments of boredom when you practice your lines over and over again. But the overall experience is totally worth it. Most of life is like that. Don’t set yourself up for disappointment by demanding that life be perfect all the time.
Doing What You Love May Not Be Easy
Living a life you love is unlikely to be easy. If it was, you would not grow very much as a person. And, if you think about a great book or movie or story, the growth of the main character is what matters most. What if the challenges you meet along your path to living a life you love were designed to make you grow as a person? You may actually start looking forward to challenges instead of dreading them. An easy life is hardly ever a compelling story.
Choose Your Priorities Wisely
Many people claim they want to do something, yet they don’t do it. The truth is they might not really want to do it in the first place. We all end up following through on what matters most to us. We make decisions moment by moment about what we need to focus on. What we choose to do is what we deem most important in our lives. If there is something you claim you want to do but you don’t do it, try asking yourself how much you want it. Are there other things you want more? Be honest with yourself: what you currently do each day is a reflection of your priorities. Recognize that you can change your priorities at any time.
If you love what you do, each day becomes a joyful adventure. If you don’t love what you do, life feels like a chore. The best way to achieve success is to design a life you love and live it every day.
Your resume might be up to par, but that certainly isn’t going to be the only thing that gets you an interview. What will get you noticed and give you the best shot at getting an interview is the right cover letter.
Employers are flooded with emails and there is little way to differentiate qualified candidates in a personalized way besides the information they include in their cover letter. It’s your one and only chance to tell recruiters why you are the perfect candidate for the job. It’s your first chance to wow them with your skillset and experience.
Here’s how you can take your cover letter to the next level:
1. Use a strong opener
People usually apply for jobs with a stock phrase like “I’m writing to apply for x job that I saw in y place.” That’s pretty dull and isn’t going to grab anyone’s attention. Instead, start the cover letter with a specific fact about yourself that you think they need know. For example, you could say “Hi, I’m a marketing and copywriting guru with 15 years of experience running strategic campaigns for small businesses.” Right away, they get to learn something about you and are intrigued.
Don’t waste a hiring manager's time by regurgitating all the info in your resume -- they don’t need to read it twice. Instead, focus on your personal value and traits, why you’re excited about the job or specific achievements you’ve had in the past.
3. Show off your knowledge of the company
The body of the letter should highlight the fact that you’re not just looking for any job, but this particular job. You should prove that you have done your research and appreciate and admire what the company does. Researching their social media platforms, learning more about the challenges they are facing and understanding the culture of the organization are important parts of showing that you care about the company and are the best candidate.
4. Focus on the value you could bring to the company
Don't be modest! Managers are looking for someone who is going to make their jobs easier. So how, specifically, can can help the company overcome some of the obstacles it is facing (do your research)? Name a certain challenge and talk about how your experience has equipped you with the skills you need to overcome these issues.
5. Get the tone right
You want to be conversational, but you also want to make sure you’re using the right tone for the company you’re applying with. For instance, you might take a more casual, colloquial tone with a young startup and a more serious, professional tone with a larger corporation. Don’t use slang and make sure your grammar and spelling are spot-on, but try to keep your language warm and engaging.
You’ll definitely want to avoid vague statements and hyperbole, but you’ll score extra points if you can include some stats on how you have impacted companies or associations that you’ve been employed with in the past. Employers love to see the tangible effect new hires could have on their company. It also shows them that you know what you’re doing and they won’t experience a steep learning curve with you.
Facing judgment day isn't easy. Most people try to act--take on roles and attributes that are foreign to who they truly are--and the results are disastrous. As a doctoral student in clinical psychology, I've been fortunate enough to average attending seven interviews each year for the past four years. While I certainly have areas for growth, being interviewed by elite psychologists and therapists--people trained to read and interpret human behavior--has taught me many valuable lessons that I'd like to share.
Here are 10 mistakes most people make when interviewing and how to avoid them:
1. Not putting enough time, energy, and effort into your preparation.
People who don't put effort into researching the company, their mission, and the type of people they hire often fail to get the job. I learned that how prepared I feel in terms of both answering questions about myself and knowing facts about the organization is directly correlated with my performance and level of comfort.
Spend the time you need to build confidence in yourself and increase your knowledge of the company.
2. Failing to maintain awareness of your posture and body language.
As a psychologist in training, I've grown to learn my tendencies: crossing my arms or leaning back when I'm anxious. Now I ensure that my body language is open, grounded, and non-defensive. That behavior shows others that I am comfortable, receptive, and confident, and has the added benefit of sending messages to my brain to remain calm.
Practice becoming more aware of your body and know your tendencies in stressful situations.
3. Talking too much.
Amateurs think that they need to cover every possible bullet point with the interviewer to appear competent. This anxious tendency often works against them, because the interviewer becomes more attuned to their anxiety than the content of their speech.
Silence can be powerful; learn how to pause and know when your answer is good enough.
4. Being afraid to revisit earlier questions and topics.
One thing that psychologists and most interviewers value is the ability to be self-reflective. This skill is correlated with emotional intelligence and conveys that you think about how you affect others. Sometimes it's absolutely appropriate to link your current answer to something you previously stated.
Practice noticing trends and patterns in your messages, and don't be afraid to revisit items--especially when it shows self-reflective skills.
5. Mumbling or rushing your speech instead of thinking first.
Nothing is worse than word vomiting or going mute--especially in group interviews. If you can't handle the pressure of an intense interview, how are you going to handle a chaotic day at work?
Tell your interviewer that you're going to take a second to contemplate your answer--it shows confidence and composure.
6. Not supporting your statements with evidence and examples.
Telling people about yourself and how you work is good, but showing them how and why you work the way you do is better. Give your interviewer a glimpse into what makes you tick by explaining your values and by providing real-life examples. It will make your claims more significant.
Explain the how and the why for each statement you make.
7. Underestimating how much your appearance matters.
Yes, it's a superficial world and you need to take that into account. For example, I'm aware that my beard conveys wisdom and masculinity, my purple shirt shows I'm connected to my femininity and creativity, my glasses say "Hey, I'm smart," and my mala bracelet shows that I'm grounded.
Everything on your body speaks to who you are, so think through the messages you're sending to others.
8. Not preparing meaningful questions to demonstrate competence and curiosity.
The biggest rookie failure of all time is not preparing questions to ask the interviewer. Don't be that person who ends an interview without asking questions that can further your credibility.
Instead, compile a list of questions that highlight your attention to detail and ability to critically dissect information.
9. Failing to explain your value and highlight how you and the company are a great fit.
You're basically trying to establish a romantic relationship with someone who is convinced that they don't need you. When you don't explain why you're a good fit, there's almost no chance that they'll accept your offer to go on a date.
Show what you can bring to the table and why this relationship will be mutually beneficial.
10. Allowing stress and anxiety to ruin your introduction and closing.
Stress and anxiety happen to the best of us, but you need to focus.
Do whatever it takes to find your groove before interviewing, and then be intentional about your first and last impression--make yourself stand out.
The opinions expressed here by Inc.com columnists are their own, not those of Inc.com.
Has your child ever scraped their knee on the playground, then come running to you, crying, with open arms? When kids feel secure with their parents or caregivers, they automatically turn to them for comfort. Some parent behaviors foster that sense of security, while other actions can break it down.
Knowing the right way to react to your child in certain situations can be tricky. Here’s what to do to ensure you are raising your child to be a secure adult and setting them up to form healthy relationships later on.
Respond to their needs
Research behind attachment theory shows that kids have already established a sense of trust, or lack thereof, with their caregiver before they reach the age of one. If they are used to you reacting when they cry because they need something, they feel secure—they know they can count on you. They associate their relationship with you as one of comfort and dependability.
If they are frequently ignored or rejected when they have a legitimate need, they may become what’s called “insecurely attached,” and look to you not out of a feeling of security but rather out of necessity. This insecurity can carry over into their adult relationships.
Some kids may take advantage of the fact that adults respond when they act out. Use your judgement, but don’t blow your child off if they really need something. Being alert and attentive to your kids’ needs shows them that they’re a priority to you.
Get to know your child’s strengths and weaknesses
No two kids are alike. If you have more than one child, you may see that one is more rowdy and may need reminders to calm down, while the other is shy and may need encouragement when around other people. In order to understand how to interact with them in a way that is beneficial, you need to know what is unique about them.
The only way to get to know your children in this way is to spend time with them. You need to see how they react in certain situations to become familiar with their habits. Then you’ll be better-equipped with a customized approach for how best to help them when they need something.
This approach doesn’t mean letting your child get special treatment or extra attention–if they do something wrong, or consistently repeat negative behaviors, it’s OK to let them know their behavior is not right and that there will be consequences. What matters is your approach and your understanding that the way to get the message across to them may be different for each kid.
Don’t assume your kid knows how you feel about them
Tell them! Although you know you love your kids and you show them affection every day, they often don’t connect the dots and understand that you think the world of them. Tell them that you love them on a regular basis. Let them know that you care about them. Ask them about what they’re doing or what problems they are going through, and let them know you’re there for support.
By the same token, engage with your child at home and make them a part of household responsibilities. Tell them how much you appreciate their help. Besides training them to be more responsible, this can teach them to show gratitude toward others. Studies show that those who say thank you are generally more compassionate and willing to help out.
Kids learn by example. Set a good one for them from the beginning. Be there for them, and they’ll have a better chance of growing up to be caring adults and parents themselves.
| Starting a small business in this recession may seem suicidal but like a popular American President once said, never let a bad situation go to waste. A lot of very good businesses have been borne out of an economic recession especially if you have the right business model and follow important success tips. To be successful in your business requires that you start on a very good note.
We spoke to a few entrepreneurs and they tell us these 9 critical steps are critical to helping you start your business successfully.
Begin building the business when you have an alternate source of income
Given the high cost of living and the fact that no legitimate business is likely to produce profits immediately, it is imperative that you have another source of income to keep you going through the initial stages of your small business. There’s not much a hungry entrepreneur can achieve.
More is better:
No man is an island’, ‘Wisdom exists in a collection of advisors’ and all other proverbial sayings similar to them highlight he importance of setting up a support system- people who can listen to your ideas, fine-tune them for you or even chip in valuable advice along the way. One of those tips they give may be the difference between success and failure of your business. In addition, since you can be skilled in all the core areas of a business, a support team can help you reduce costs along the way. Lawyers, accountants etc. are usually very valuable support members.
Take time to invest in a strong business plan: A beautiful idea is usually the beginning of every successful business, but is also the beginning of every failed one. Thus, it is important for you to articulate these ideas into a comprehensive business plan that shows on paper exactly how the business can succeed. Present and future investors, mentors and others will feel more confident backing you up if you have a sound business plan. Nairametrics can help with your business plans
Determine who/what your sources of finance will be as well as their availability
Given the current financial climate in Nigeria, very few banks if any, is ready to invest in small business. And if you are fortunate enough to find any who is, the crippling interest rate may mean you are better off not doing the business. So scout for other sources of funds-savings, informal lenders. You can look at the current state of crowdfunding in the country although enabling legislation still seems to be a hindrance. Whatever your source(s) is/are, ensure you have them locked down before you begin implementation of your business plan.
Create demand before supply
It makes no sense to go investing huge sums of money in creating a product or service that will lay fallow in the store. It is definitely necessary that you ensure that what you are about to offer is really what the market wants. Depending on the resources available and the scope of your business, there are different options available ranging from simple observation to contracting out a market research consultancy.
A first impression lasts longer
How you come across during your first meeting with a potential investor or customer is very important. So from the word go, get all the professional business items that make you look professional- business cards, business address, a dedicated business line etc. the first customers are key to your success. Make sure you make a good impression.
Make sure you find your business interesting
Your business is not your favorite pastime- you can be forgiven. You don’t enjoy the business- you cannot be forgiven. This is possibly the most important question to ask yourself before starting out. You simply cannot last long without the key attributes as persistence, determination and patience. You cannot have these attributes if you do not enjoy what you are doing.
Get your records straight from the onset
A lot of small business often make the mistake of thinking keeping proper accounting records is not very important. If you start a business that you feel one day will become something really big, then why not start now to keep account of every single naira and kobo. A lot of businesses forget that the key to business expansion is showing customers, investors your track record from day 1 and you cannot achieve that without proper book-keeping.
You don’t need to have money to start
A common assumption we all make is to think that you need money to start a business. While money is indeed critical to start a business it’s not a prerequisite. In fact, what you need the most are the vision, courage and determination to start. Without that no amount of money can help you start a business.