Keep your friendship as good as your marriage

ELIZABETH BADEJO 

   

 

Many young newly-wed couples often assume that friendship stops when they marry, forgetting that friends play significant roles in their marriage and as long as they surround themselves with good friends, they will, in turn, become better people.

Marriage and friendship are two separate creeds and one must not contend with the other. Both are equally important; without friendship, life is completely worthless.

The good times

It is not unusual to place more importance on your new marriage and start to fall out of touch with all your single friends and completely give up everything you previously found exciting and fulfilling. You must remember that you were once single and as you give up those friendships you once found important, you will be placing a tremendous burden on your spouse to fill the void of whatever you gave up. If, on the other hand, your spouse is unable to fill the vacuum, this burden may create neediness, dependency, bitterness and boredom in your marriage in the end.

Friends can shape and build

It is great to surround yourself with a good circle of supportive friends who helped to build and shape you into the person you are, as you have also helped to shape them into who they are. Without friendship, life will be completely meaningless and it will show to the world that you are incapable of building relationships with others and nurturing it till the end.

The relationship you nurtured as friends will become the success factor of your friendship; a few friends may drop off the alliance rope as a result of your marriage, but rest assured that your good friends will be prepared to stand by you.

Time out is great

Marriage may be beautiful and things may be going great, but trust me, it certainly cannot guarantee absolute fulfilment. While you enjoy the whole happily-ever-after, it is important to preserve some relaxing girls’ time out when you and your friends can unwind and spend quality girly time together.

Being married should not change your character and the relationship you once enjoyed with your good friends; marriage is a benefit which gives you an added advantage over your single friends and the maturity to understand and differentiate between the good and bad. Bear in mind that you may lose a good few friends after your wedding if your friendship was baseless, but remember that not every friendship is built to last.

Notes

It is very hard for individuals to earn friends who are true and honest. Even if you have just one friend who is close to you, you should try your best not to let go of that relationship and ensure that it continues for the rest of your life.

Remember that people will come and go all throughout your life, but there will always be those who are here to stay and with the right group of friends, you can be assured of the fact that your life will be blissful and full of enjoyable moments that you will cherish for years to come.

SOURCE:PUNCH.