15 Things Highly Confident People Don’t Do

Highly confident people believe in their ability to achieve. If you don’t believe

 in yourself, why should anyone else put their faith in you? To walk with 

swagger and improve your self-confidence, watch out for these fifteen things 

highly confident people don’t do.

1. They don’t make excuses.

Highly confident people take ownership of their thoughts and actions. 

They don’t blame the traffic for being tardy at work; they were late. 

They don’t excuse their short-comings with excuses like “I don’t have 

the time” or “I’m just not good enough”; they make the time and they 

keep on improving until they are good enough.

2. They don’t avoid doing the scary thing.

Highly confident people don’t let fear dominate their lives. They know

 that the things they are afraid of doing are often the very same things

 that they need to do in order to evolve into the person they are meant to be.

3. They don’t live in a bubble of comfort.

Highly confident people avoid the comfort zone, because they know

 this is a place where dreams die. They actively pursue a feeling of 

discomfort, because they know stretching themselves is mandatory for 

their success.

4. They don’t put things off until next week.

Highly confident people know that a good plan executed today is better 

than a great plan executed someday. They don’t wait for the “right time”

 or the “right circumstances”, because they know these reactions are based on 

a fear of change. They take action here, now, today – because that’s where 

progress happens.

5. They don’t obsess over the opinions of others.

Highly confident people don’t get caught up in negative feedback. While

 they do care about the well-being of others and aim to make a positive impact

 in the world, they don’t get caught up in negative opinions that they can’t do 

anything about. They know that their true friends will accept them as they are,

 and they don’t concern themselves with the rest.

6. They don’t judge people.

Highly confident people have no tolerance for unnecessary, self-inflicted 

drama. They don’t feel the need to insult friends behind their backs, 

participate in gossip about fellow co-workers or lash out at folks with 

different opinions. They are so comfortable in who they are that they 

feel no need to look down on other people.

7. They don’t let lack of resources stop them.

Highly confident people can make use of whatever resources they have,

 no matter how big or small. They know that all things are possible with 

creativity and a refusal to quit. They don’t agonize over setbacks, but 

rather focus on finding a solution.

8. They don’t make comparisons.

Highly confident people know that they are not competing with any 

other person. They compete with no other individual except the person

 they were yesterday. They know that every person is living a story so

 unique that drawing comparisons would be an absurd and simplistic 

exercise in futility.

9. They don’t find joy in people-pleasing.

Highly confident people have no interest in pleasing every person they 

meet. They are aware that not all people get along, and that’s just how

 life works. They focus on the quality of their relationships, instead of the

 quantity of them.

10. They don’t need constant reassurance.

Highly confident people aren’t in need of hand-holding. They know that 

life isn’t fair and things won’t always go their way. While they can’t control 

every event in their life, they focus on their power to react in a positive 

way that moves them forward.

11. They don’t avoid life’s inconvenient truths.

Highly confident people confront life’s issues at the root before the disease

 can spread any farther. They know that problems left unaddressed have a

 way of multiplying as the days, weeks and months go by. They would 

rather have an uncomfortable conversation with their partner today than sweep an inconvenient truth under the rug, putting trust at risk.

12. They don’t quit because of minor set-backs.

Highly confident people get back up every time they fall down. They know 

that failure is an unavoidable part of the growth process. They are like a 

detective, searching for clues that reveal why this approach didn’t work. 

After modifying their plan, they try again (but better this time).

13. They don’t require anyone’s permission to 

act.

Highly confident people take action without hesitation. Every day, they 

remind themselves, “If not me, who?”

14. They don’t limit themselves to a small toolbox.

Highly confident people don’t limit themselves to Plan A. They make use

 of any and all weapons that are at their disposal, relentlessly testing

 the effectiveness of every approach, until they identify the strategies

 that offer the most results for the least cost in time and effort.

15. They don’t blindly accept what they read on the Internet as “truth” without thinking about it.

Highly confident people don’t accept articles on the Internet as truth just 

because some author “said so”. They look at every how-to article from the 

lens of their unique perspective. They maintain a healthy skepticism, making 

use of any material that is relevant to their lives, and forgetting about the

 rest. While articles like this are a fun and interesting thought-exercise, 

highly confident people know that they are the only person with the power

 to decide what “confidence” means.