Stay contented

MAY 31, 2015 : KEMI LANRE-AREMU 

 

 

Contented people have fewer health issues and are more likely to enjoy life to its fullest. Being contented is deep within and you can achieve it with these suggestions

Be in harmony with those around you

If you are having difficulties in your relationships, it is important to sort these out quickly. Impoverished relationships are a key source of discontentment and if you have tried hard with some people and nothing improves, it is important to reassess whether or not you will continue to have that disruptive influence in your life.

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Stop seeking the riches and fortunes that you feel others have

Think about the realities involved; what a lot of other people have are debts and a need to be boastful through belongings. Eschew this path and avoid falling into the trap of wanting all the goodies others have. Having all that stuff will not make you happy.

Love your job

No matter how much you earn, no matter how much training in a specific field you have, no matter how much you think you ought to follow the “right path”, working in a job you hate will not bring you contentment. Even your perfect home life cannot overcome the daily grind of a much-detested job. The key is to accept that you might not be cut out for the career you chose for yourself. Accept that happiness may just come with a less paid job that comes with greater fulfilment.

Keep healthy

Floss your teeth daily, eat nutritious foods, exercise regularly, have a good laugh at least twice a week. These are simple things, said often and over and over again, but there is a reason for this. Do them and contentment will follow.

Be a good neighbour

Get to know the people around you and be there for them as much as you can. Create community wherever you go and show trust to others. Reaching out to all is part of being contented within ourselves.

Trust and have faith

Learn to trust more and have faith in both others and yourself. This may seem difficult at first in a world where you are taught to “trust nobody but yourself” but if you cannot even trust yourself, even that adage is twisted. Forget the negative connotations about trust. Be a pragmatic trust-warrior by accepting that there will be some people who will abuse that trust but for every abuser, it is likely there will be nine people who reciprocate your trust, or who eventually come around because someone cared enough to trust them.

Be in the moment

Don’t worry about the past and the future. Contentment is reached when you make the most of the present as thinking of the past and the future will in the end lead to disappointment.

Positive thinking

Changing your outlook to a positive outlook makes it much easier to be content.

Don’t compare

Comparing your life against others or your past creates a lot of unhappiness. Enjoy and make the most of what you have.

Meditate

That is sitting still for 20 minutes a day, which gives time for your worries to come up, but don’t think about them. Just allow them to naturally pass until you achieve a calm mind. Meditation is allowing your mind to become calm.

Ask questions

When you experience a thought nagging at the back of your mind, write it down as a question. This focuses your mind and helps you not become obsessed with your thoughts.

source:PUNCH.