Recently,
there has been a lot of discussion in the press about women and cosmetic
surgery and it struck me as rather absurd for this to be a topic of debate for
us as Nigerians at this time and stage in our lives as a country, with such a
dire political, economic and welfare situation we are in.
However,
the more I thought about it the more I asked myself why not? Nigeria, by
definition, is a country of wonderful contradictions and absurdity. We aspire
to everything and nothing. We are a people that live on the edge; we thrive on
extremes and have no limits or boundaries. We are vociferous and extreme in our
views on religion, politics and morality; but in direct contrast, many of our
daily actions are base, obscene and lacking in humanity.
Interestingly,
the issue of cosmetic surgery is one that has been and continues to be of great
interest in the UK and America. The difference is that as surgery, it has
almost become the norm and a daily occurrence in those parts of the world and
both men, women, even some as young as in their early teens, commonly engage in
some form of cosmetic surgery.
The
discussions usually have to do with the pressure women in particular feel they
are under to look young and the general aversion the West has to any form of
aging and their obsession with youth.
However,
as a form of surgery, people don’t generally tend to die from the procedure
(there might be a few exceptions). In contrast, there appears to be a growing
number of disastrous results with Nigerian women who have undergone the
procedure.
Early
this year, there was a young Nigerian woman who lost her life in America after
having buttocks implants. There have been a lot of questions as to why they are
having such negative results and whether it might be because they are not
forthcoming with their full health status.
Any
medical procedure which has not gone on as planned can have distressing
results. The negative effects of an operation can leave you feeling extremely
depressed and anxious. Regardless of the aesthetic results of any cosmetic
surgery, having this form of surgery is usually associated with increases in
anxiety and a tendency to depression, with an eventual lack of satisfaction
with the results. This increased casual use of cosmetic surgery and surgical
procedures can result in a life-time of mental health problems.
It
would appear that our women might be negligent in doing even the most basic
research on cosmetic procedures. They probably rely on encouragement from
friends or what they see in magazines and forge ahead on decisions that can
have permanent ramifications in their lives. You need to understand what your
own health needs are. There are so many detailed questions to ask. How long
will the benefits last? Will there be a lot of pain? Will you need anaesthesia?
How long is recovery? Is there anything to be done to avoid bruising or speed
up recovery? How long has the surgeon been practising, or how many of that
particular procedure has he done?
This
is your face and your body and cosmetic surgery is a personal, physical and
psychological experience. One size does not fit all. Before you embark on
something so enormously life-changing and probably unnecessary, you need to be
very thoughtful, careful and afraid.
Some
women have cosmetic surgery or try a procedure because someone else has
persuaded them to try it. Sometimes, the desire is provoked by those feelings
of discomfort as the natural aging process sneaks up on us; those innocuous
comments that sometimes send women into a tailspin of insecurity and anxiety
about their appearance. You need to think clearly and carefully for whom you
are about to alter your face or body, in the knowledge that there is no
guarantee of the outcome – physically, emotionally and psychologically.
Many
women are unrealistic about cosmetic surgery. What are you trying to
accomplish? While there is no denying it can do marvellous things for those who
have realistic expectations and take the time to do the required investigation
and preparations, it is not a magic treatment or a cure-all, and it most
definitely cannot give you self esteem on a sustained basis. It is only transient.
It will not make an older woman young again and it may not necessarily
transform your experiences in life.
Most
importantly, cosmetic surgery cannot take the place of a warm, loving healthy
relationship with a partner, or the strength and courage you derive from well
nurtured friendships. Your external appearance will not alter a damaged
internal world.
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