Lauryn Hill Live In Lagos

Samuel Abolude

Grammy award winning artiste, Lauryn Hill was in Lagos to entertain with her brand of music. Her show held on August 30 and according to reports, guests had to wait long before the star singer came on stage at the Eko Hotel & Suites.
She was earlier scheduled to perform on May Day (May 1) in Nigeria but she was nowhere to be found in the country. The singer who was married to Bob Marley’s son, later made a public apology for the no show months ago. Her first concert in Lagos was cancelled due to a flight schedule.
This time around, it was until 1 am before the former Fugees band singer showed up on stage for her performance, but at the end it was very well worth the wait for the audience that stayed all through.
While on stage, she dazzled and did freestyle rap lines on an Afrobeat instrumental. Other artistes that performed before her include Chocolate City’s Victoria Kimani, Shaydee from EME label, Tekno, Yungrace and others.
Basket Mouth anchored the show keeping the audience alive and grooving making up for the delay.

Warning: 6 Early Signs of an Abusive Relationship

Do you believe in love at first sight? A serendipitous meeting that changes everything? If you're like most Americans, you do, and may have experienced it firsthand. Like a fairy-tale cast under the spell of Cupid's arrow, two people gazing into each others eyes, seeing only the positive traits of the other. They fall in love from the moment they meet and live happily ever after. Sounds amazing, right?

For the lucky ones, this mystical experience is the "Honeymoon Phase" of a lifelong love affair. For others, it's a wonderful beginning of a relationship that doesn't work out. But for those who end up in an abusive relationship, the "honeymoon period" is the illusory calm before the storm.

Think It Can't Happen to You? 

People don't dive into abusive relationships. They relinquish their lives an inch at a time as they become more entrenched in the relationship. Their abusers hold themselves back until they gain their partner's trust and love.

Abusive relationships often begin as incredibly intense and passionate love affairs. Abusers can be charismatic, attentive, committed, a real life Prince Charming. Let's face it, as a society, we're tired of people with commitment issues. Someone who says "I love you" and talks marriage and children is a rare creature to be cherished. And when they test your limits and boundaries, it's easy to find yourself feeling unsure and searching for an excuse or justification.

Indeed, warning signs exist, but they aren't easy to recognize or accept. Here are six of the most common.

1. Moving Very Fast

The most difficult warning sign to accept is how fast things progress. She wants to see him every night. He wants to move in after a month. The abusive partner may claim you're perfect for each other, that it was love at first sight, that you're soul mates, and other romantic-sounding things. Unfortunately, the desirability of this behavior gives controlling partners the best opportunity to gain total control over the other partner's schedule and life.

2. Unrealistic Expectations

As things progress and get more serious, we see new signs developing. One is finding your partner has unrealistic expectations. They want the Disney relationship with very stereotypical gender roles. He should provide, and if his job isn't going well, there's a problem. She should keep the house, and if dinner isn't on the table when he gets home, there's a problem. Their happiness depends on their partner. If you're not living up to expectations, the world is ending. After all, you are their world!

3. Hypersensitivity and Jealousy

Another sign is hypersensitivity. This refers to the jealous partner overreacting to little things: comments, jokes, or small issues. Abusers often have low self-esteem and take everything personally. They may be easily insulted or claim that the world is against them if they meet a slight setback. If you disagree about anything, no matter how trivial, you're insulting them to their core and calling them a terrible person who can't do anything right. This often shows itself in a set of rules that have a clear double standard. If she glances at another man, she doesn't find her partner attractive anymore and is cheating on him. But if she comments on him blatantly staring at other women, she is calling him a pervert and accusing him of terrible things he would never do.

4. Excessive Gifts

Other big warning signs include lavishing a new partner with gifts, especially when that partner is uncomfortable with all the showiness. This creates a foundation where any complaint by the new partner brings accusations of ungratefulness and greediness: "After all I've done for you, I get this?"

5. Imposed Isolation

Imposed isolation begins with your partner criticizing, questioning, and making unwelcome your closest friends and social network. Abusers will try to make you feel guilty for wanting to spend time with friends and family. For example, a woman might avoid an evening out with her friends because she knows her partner is jealous and is afraid of his reaction afterward. To mask his jealousy, he'll flip the conversation towards questioning her motives for wanting a night out.

6. Mean or Abusive Towards Others

And it's not just about how they treat their new partner. Warning signs are often obvious in how the abuser treats everyone else. The waiter brings the wrong wine and it turns into a scene where the manager is called. Someone bumps into him on the street and he yells obscenities even though he's not hurt in the slightest. She makes critical comments about every other woman in the room, not caring who hears her. Abusers have short tempers and work hard to hide it from their partner. Pay attention to the way they treat strangers. You'll be surprised at what you might observe.

Observing any of these signs once doesn't mean you should run for the hills. But if you're seeing multiple warning signs or a progressive pattern develop, you should be concerned. Be wise, trust your instincts, and protect yourself. If something doesn't sound or feel right, do what's best for you and keep yourself safe.

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12 healthiest foods you’ve never heard of

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Amaranth: The grain-like seeds have a mild, nutty taste. It’s higher in fibre and protein than wheat and brown rice. It’s loaded with vitamins, and it’s been shown in studies to help lower blood pressure and harmful LDL cholesterol. Amaranth cooks up just like rice. Toss it with grilled vegetables as a bed for chicken or steak.

Pu-erh tea: A fermented Chinese tea with an earthy flavour, Pu-erh can literally shrink the size of your fat cells. The tea significantly lowers triglyceride concentrations (potentially dangerous fat found in the blood) and belly fat in the high-fat diet groups. It’s a natural fat-blaster, along with barberry, rooibos and white tea.

Fenugreek: This tangy, curry-scented herb is used in many tasty Indian dishes. It can help regulate blood sugar and lower your blood-sugar response after a meal, by delaying stomach emptying, which slows carbohydrate absorption and enhances insulin sensitivity. Find it in Indian stores. Mix a teaspoon of pure fenugreek powder into beef stew to kick up the flavour, or add whole seeds to a rice dish to create a Southeast Asian-style pilaf.

Goldenberries: These tangy, dark yellow berries contain protein and fibre. They’re also a great source of vitamin A and disease-fighting antioxidants. Snack on the dried berries alone like you would raisins, or toss a handful on a salad or your breakfast cereal.

Aronia berry: No fruit packs more anthocyanins, potent cancer-fighting antioxidants that lend the berry its deep purple colour. Because of this, aronia has been shown to fight cardiovascular disease, chronic inflammation, and even liver damage in rats. Blend some into a smoothie.

Celeriac: It is loaded with bone-building vitamin K, and it’s a good source of vitamin C and potassium. It goes well with other root vegetables in soups and stews or shred it raw into coleslaw. You can peel, boil, mash; it’ll add a hint of earthy sweetness, and for less carbs.

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The Pros and Cons of Starting a Business While Working a Full-Time Job

JAYSON DEMERS

Most people don’t start out as entrepreneurs. They choose to start their own business only after some level of work experience.

It could be because they don’t like the idea of having a boss and want to step out as their own. It could be because they learned critical skills that enable them to be a leader in their own right. It could even be because they came up with a great idea in the normal course of working.

Of these three motivations stemming from an existing job (and of course, there are always more), only one stems from the job being intolerable. In the other cases, the job is fine, but entrepreneurship serves as a valuable alternative.

Because stepping out as an entrepreneur is risky and staying with your current job is safe, many potential entrepreneurs consider the idea of starting their own business while maintaining their full-time jobs. This approach doesn’t work for everyone, as it has some critical limitations, but it also has some key appeals.

The benefits

First, and most important, is the security factor. Leaving your current full-time job to start your own business can be risky. You’ll be abandoning your post, investing your own capital and potentially running on zero income for the foreseeable future. If your business collapses or fails to generate any meaningful momentum, you’ll be low on cash and without a job.

Keeping your job while starting your own business is a way of hedging your bets, granting you some guaranteed income as you work to develop your business on the side. If you keep your job, you can quit at any time. If you quit your job, it’s going to be difficult to get it back.

Keeping your existing job also allows you to take advantage of company resources for the benefit of your new enterprise. Obviously, you can’t take office supplies or tangible goods, but you can talk with your bosses, co-workers and colleagues to get advice or partner with them to develop certain areas of the business. You can even engage in professional networking to start building contacts for your new business.

The drawbacks

The most obvious drawback is time. If you’re working full time, you won’t have much time left over to pursue your own business. You’ll have to force all your work in the company to weeknights and weekends, which are typically harder times to do business. This means it will take a longer time for you to get your business up and running, and you won’t be able to give it your all for as long as you stay employed.

Second, you’ll naturally consider your startup more of a hobby than a living, and you’ll be less motivated to nurture it to fruition. Rather than being motivated by the sink-or-swim nature of sole entrepreneurship, your safety net will keep you from fully mentally investing in your enterprise.

Working on your startup can also have a negative impact on your performance at your full-time job. If you find yourself distracted with new ideas or staying up all night to complete work on some facet of the business, you won’t be able to give your full attention to your job.

Eventually, your employers will notice, and you could wind up losing your safety net altogether. Or, if you can juggle both entrepreneurship and a full-time job, your family and personal lives may suffer. After all, if your only time to work on your side business is on weeknights and weekends, when will you spend time with friends and family? It’s a major burden to take on both at once.

Conclusion

There are clear advantages and disadvantages to starting a business while employed. But as long as you can reasonably manage both, I would have to give the slight edge to retaining employment while starting a business.

There is a study that suggests entrepreneurs who start a business while still employed tend to do better than those that don’t, but these results might be suggestive of a hidden variable, such as risk aversion, that leads both to this decision and to entrepreneurial success. Personally, I went the route of starting my business on the side while still working as a full-time employee elsewhere. It’s difficult, but doable.

If you do proceed to start a business under your current employer, be sure to adhere to the following best practices:

• Don’t do any entrepreneurial work on company time. This could burn a major bridge and leave you without a job.
• Be open about your intentions with your supervisors. The last thing you want is for them to find out by happenstance.
• Don’t sabotage yourself. If your business demands more work, either quit your job and go full time, or find additional help.
• Keep it balanced. Don’t burn yourself out, and don’t allow your performance to slip.

Ways to Overcome Your Unreasonable Fears You Cant Share With Anyone ...

MARTY FUKUDA

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Fear is natural. In a predator-versus-prey world, heightened awareness is critical to survival. In our world of business, however, most fears have little to do with survival and more to do with personal insecurities.

“Will I meet my deadline?”

“Does my boss like me?”

These doubts do little to help us achieve our goals. In fact, they often impede them. Yes, fear can serve a motivational purpose, but substituting this with confidence will provide better results. A few key strategies can help manage -- and eventually eliminate -- unnecessary fears.

Related: 50 Signs You Might Be an Entrepreneur

1. Realize you’re not alone.

Regardless of what fears you face, someone somewhere has already figured out a way to overcome them. Allow this fact alone to bring you comfort. If they can prevail, you can too.

2. Remove all visions of doubt.

In the book How Champions Think, Dr. Bob Rotella shares a story of the late world-class golfer Sam Snead. “He would get into bed at night after a tournament round and replay every shot in his imagination. But when his replay came to a shot he hadn’t played well, he edited it. He erased the memory of the poor shot and instead visualized himself playing the shot correctly.”

A big part of overcoming fear is to choose the right picture and focus on it. Sam Snead fixated on what he wanted, not on the negative. He understood that the image you allow to carry the greatest weight will be the one that manifests itself.

Related: Decisions, Decisions: What Separates Leaders From the Rest

3. Understand what opportunities you have the potential to lose.

Fear prevents us from acting outside of our comfort zones. In the moment, it was “safer” to do nothing. In retrospect, we often wish we would have just “gone for it.” At least then we would be living with a swing and a miss instead of having watched a strike go by with the bat on our shoulder.

The lesson to be learned from missed opportunities: Next time, stare fear in the face and give it your best shot.

4. Draw on personal experiences.

When I was a young boy, I remember playing Little League ball and having a fear of being hit by a pitch. Over time, with much practice and experience at the plate, that fear subsided.

Another past fear of mine is public speaking. I vividly recall speech class in high school, where my greater worry of not graduating trumped my fear of speaking in front of my class. Now that I am able to recall a few personal triumphs -- no matter how big or small -- I am confident in my ability to move past any mental roadblocks I may face.

A self-made millionaire says these are the 4 things you should do once you achieve success

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Almost everyone wants to be successful. Many consider it the ultimate goal in our personal and professional lives.

But what happens once we reach it?

Most people don't think that far ahead, says Paul Scolardi, a self-made millionaire who has figured out how to continue thriving after achieving success.

Scolardi, who spent nearly two decades in corporate finance as a Certified Public Accountant, has been investing and trading in stocks for over 18 years ("I manage my own money in the stock market; I do not manage or touch other people's money in any way," he explains to Business Insider) and is now a financial educator through his company, Super-Trades LLC.

"I became a millionaire by trading my own money with the strategy I now teach," he says. "My goal was always to be financially independent and to be my own boss. That is what I have achieved and that was my litmus test for success: financial independence, being my own boss, and being able to work from anywhere. I would say I have [considered myself successful] for about three years now."

From the moment he first felt like he had "made it," Scolardi knew his work wasn't done — he knew he had to keep going. That's when (and why) he started his stock education business.

He says if you achieve your biggest goals and then lie back, put your feet up, and stop pushing yourself, "you become lost and directionless." Instead, there are four things you should do as soon as you feel like you've achieved success. They are:

1. Stay humble.

Once you achieve success, fight the urge to get cocky and arrogant, he suggests. "That is what I did after becoming a millionaire the first time and I lost it all." 

If you have that mindset, you could easily lose friends, family, and supporters — and the joy that often accompanies success will be ripped away in a second. 

Courtesy of Paul Scolardi"People need to know that anything worth achieving is going to take effort and hard work."

2. Set bigger goals. 

The next goal that will make you feel even more successful should be even bigger than the first.

For instance, if your first goal was to make it to the C-suite, earn six figures, and be in a job you love, your next one could be to figure out what you're most passionate about in life and start your owncompany that revolves around those interests.

"Remember that was a point where you thought you would never be able reach where you currently are," Scolardi says. "Now it is time to set similar 'stretch goals.'" They may seem impossible, but you achieved a huge goal once before, so you can probably do it again."

3. Work even harder.

Bigger goals require greater confidence, stronger motivation, and more work.

Stop, reflect, and think about how you achieved success the first time. Learn from your mistakes and the things you did right, and keep those things in mind as you work toward achieving the new goal(s).

"The tendency once you achieve success is to take the foot off the pedal and to stop learning and achieving," says Scolardi. "Sure, you have to enjoy life, but continue to use and improve the work ethic that helped you to achieve the success you now have."

4. Ignore the haters.

People will be jealous and mean when you achieve success. "I am not talking about people that give you constructive criticism," he explains. "I am talking about internet trolls and people who talk behind your back. Be prepared to hear the meanest things about yourself that you can imagine.

"Not everyone is going to like you or believe in you. This has nothing to do with you achieving your personal goals. Energy wasted on such trolls is exactly what they want, and it is energy that you're not spending building more successes."

Scolardi says we live in a world where people have a "fast food attitude" towards success. "They think, 'I want what I want now, exactly how I want it, and with as little cost as possible.' But people need to know that anything worth achieving is going to take effort and hard work."

One word successful people never use at work

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University of Exeter/Flickr"I'll try" probably won't sit well with your boss.

"Think twice before you speak, because your words and influence will plant the seed of either success or failure in the mind of another." —Napoleon Hill

Darlene Price, president of Well Said, Inc., and author of "Well Said! Presentations and Conversations That Get Results," told Business Insider that words, poorly and unconsciously chosen, can indeed harm your credibility, relationships, and opportunities for advancement at work. 

"Words matter," she explained. "They are a key component of persuasive communication. Regardless of the audience, topic, or industry ... a leader uses language to influence someone's mind in order to achieve a certain result. That's one reason they're seen as leaders; their words compel people to follow."

She said one word these people don't use at work is "try."

If your boss says to you, "I need your proposal by 10 a.m. tomorrow for the customer meeting," and your reply is, "Okay. I'll try to get it finished," they probably won't be thrilled.

"The word 'try' implies the possibility it may not get finished," Price said. And no boss wants to hear this, as it presupposes possible failure.

It also tells them you're not completely confident in your abilities to get something done, which isn't the message you want to send at work.

Instead, she suggested trying: "Yes, I will get it finished" or "I will have it on your desk by 9 a.m."

If it's not an unreasonable request, there's no reason you shouldn't be able to get it done — and therefore no reason to use the word "try."

But if for some reason you really can't complete the assigned task, you'll want to politely ask for an extended deadline and get figure out a way to complete the task by then.

Nigeria has biggest broadcast sector in Africa – FG

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Director-General, Nigeria Broadcasting Commission, Emeka Mba
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Nigeria currently has the biggest broadcast sector in Africa, the Federal Government has declared.

This is coming as broadcasters in the country accused state governments, particularly Lagos, of excessive taxation, all in a bid to raise their internally generated revenue, and described the development as “counterproductive” to broadcasters’ operations

At an event to commemorate the 23rd anniversary of the National Broadcasting Commission in Abuja on Monday, the NBC explained that with 27 campus broadcast stations, 63 federal radio stations, 133 federal television stations, 122 state radio stations, 68 state television, 51 Multichannel Multipoint Distribution Services, 26 Direct-to-Home services, 97 private radio and 43 private television stations, Nigeria can boast of having the largest broadcast industry on the continent.

The Director-General, NBC, Mr. Emeka Mba, said the broadcasting landscape had enjoyed tremendous growth and had blossomed into a vibrant industry with unlimited potential.

He said, “It has transformed from a single, domineering, authoritarian voice into a beautiful democratic orchestra of multiple views and perspectives. In practical terms, we have grown from a handful of government-owned broadcast stations to over 600 diversely owned stations. Truly, we would not be immodest to announce to the world that ours is now the biggest broadcast sector in Africa.”

Mba, however, noted that the most critical challenge in recent times had been piloting the switchover from analogue to digital broadcasting, adding that Nigeria unfortunately missed the June 17 deadline for the switchover due to factors beyond its control.

But the DG stated that the commission was on course to meet the new deadline of June 20, 2017.

He said the 23rd anniversary lecture of the NBC was being organised for the first time and its aim was to stimulate intellectual discourse, place salient matters of the industry on the front burner, chart a fitting navigational strategy, and translate into positive dividends.

On allegations that state governments were excessively taxing broadcasters, the Chairman, Independent Broadcasters Association of Nigeria, Chief Sonny Adun, told participants at the anniversary lecture that the broadcasters were already remitting taxes to the Federal Government and it was not right for states to demand taxes from them.

“They do this in order to raise their IGR and it is important to note that double taxation is counterproductive to any business,” he said.

Adun, who particularly cited the Lagos State Government as an example, noted that the state governments used armed law enforcement agents to seal off the offices of broadcasters who fail to pay taxes to the states.

“We are appealing to the Federal Government and the NBC to do something about this as it is not good for the business and the industry,” the IBAN chairman said.

source: PUNCH.